Since i m Tennis coach i saw many very good young players fail just because one cause: the parents. This article is not to attack the parents if not maybe to, at least, give to them the other point of view.
First at all I want to say that I m also father then, I know the parents point of view too. During all my coach live I saw, im seeing and will see parents, who push their kids to play tennis like professionals, watching on them the next Nº 1 and putting on them tons of expectations, obligations and pressure in 10 or 12 or 14 years old kids
Then is when is coming to my mind the question: what were they doing when they had 10 years old? When I ask this question to the parents they use to answer, I was playing something. (football, tennis, or whatever) . Then I remark them ; YOU WERE PLAYING, with all the meaning of the word “playing” This mean, play with friend, naturally, enjoying the moment and NOT LIKE SMALL PROFESSIONALS
Something wrong we are doing, believe me, if a kid is suffering in a tennis court just because this kid, the only thing is trying to do, is make the parents feel happy.
Sometime ago, in a mental session with a player I asked him: for what are you playing tennis? The answer was awesome: I play to achieve my Father dream.
How many kids, consciously or un consciously are playing just to get the parent recognition?
They are in this live to complete the Parents life?
My question for all the parents is: are your kids in this live to achieve your goals? You are not enough capable to achieve your goals for yourself?
Like I said, this is not one attack, unfortunately doesn´t exist a Parent School, nobody taught us how to be Parents. We learned with the experience. I don’t want to tell you how to be good Parents, I don’t have the authority, because, for sure, as a father I made a lot of mistakes.
The parent Workshop that I m organizing is just to share experiences, to give the opportunity to learn how to create a better environment to get that more kids play tennis happily
Hope to see a lot of Parents